Love is always quiet

     Love is always quiet.

    The biggest taboo in love is that both people fantasize about each other's future, yet always dwell on each other's past.

    Even though they say they've let go and moved on, they always unconsciously think of the person who once gave them warmth. Every time, just as they're smiling and lost in their own world, reality hits, the pain returns, and then a cold feeling washes over them, never to warm them again. This cycle repeats until the heart is finally weary. Reality is like this. You've been intoxicated, you've loved deeply, but you've finally woken up, lost and directionless.

    You want to give that person happiness, but you can't enter their world. You want to trade the whole world for a ticket to that person's world, but you know deep down it's just wishful thinking. In your world, no one cares; in his world, you're banished. You truly, truly loved, offering your heart with both hands, only to be ignored and trampled upon. You close your eyes, thinking you can forget, but the tears you shed cannot deceive yourself.

    In this world, there are too many such feelings: loving quietly, even the pain is savored alone in a deserted corner.

    An apology doesn't always mean you're wrong and the other person is right. Sometimes it simply means that you value the relationship more than yourself.

    When you hate someone, their virtues are seen as a facade; when you like someone, their flaws become beautiful. In the throes of passionate love, nothing else matters. "As long as you want it, as long as I have it, because I love you, I'm willing." Once the passion subsides, a constant stream of calculations arises: Why did I give more than you? Why can I give you everything, yet you hide things from me? Then comes the cold war, arguments, breakups, reconciliations, the cold war again… Those who can overcome it will stay together forever; those who can't can only reminisce. Sometimes, we can comfort others about the same thing, but we can't convince ourselves.

    Time will tell you the whole truth. Some things, you only realize were mistakes when you gradually come to your senses; some things, you only realize their weight when you truly let go.

    When you can hold hands, don't just walk side by side; when you can embrace, don't just hold hands. When you can love each other, don't talk about breaking up; once you have love, don't dabble in ambiguity.

    The harm a man inflicts on a woman isn't necessarily that he falls in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations, and fails to offer comfort when she's vulnerable.

    The world has no inherent tragedy or comedy; if you can emerge from tragedy, it becomes comedy; if you wallow in comedy, it becomes tragedy. If you just wait, all that will happen is that you grow older. The meaning of life isn't about having a good hand, but about playing a bad hand well.

    If we had met each other earlier, perhaps we wouldn't be holding hands with someone else. Or perhaps if we had met later, after we'd both learned tolerance, understanding, kindness, and compromise through our own love experiences, perhaps when we came together, we wouldn't have given up so easily, turned away so capriciously, and let love slip away. But time doesn't turn back, and love can't be based on "what ifs."

    The weakest point of a person is their inability to let go. They can't let go of a relationship that's no longer exciting, they can't let go of vanity, they can't let go of applause. We always think the best days will last a very long time, that we don't need to leave so soon. While we're being soft-hearted and lacking courage, the best days slip away mercilessly. Sometimes, what you're waiting for isn't an event, an opportunity, or someone; you're waiting for time. Waiting for time to let you forget, waiting for time to let you change—giving up is gaining.

    Often, when you like someone, you need no reason; when you dislike someone, you have many excuses. If you want something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it will always be yours; if it doesn't, it was never yours to begin with. The best revenge isn't hatred, but indifference from the bottom of your heart. Why waste energy hating someone irrelevant?

    The saddest thing for a person isn't losing too much yesterday, but being immersed in yesterday's sorrow. The most foolish thing for a person isn't failing to see the trap ahead, but falling into it a second time. The loneliest thing for a person isn't waiting for someone who hasn't arrived, but that person having already left their heart.

    Forgetting someone isn't about never thinking of them again, but thinking of them occasionally without any emotional turmoil. True forgetting requires no effort.

    Life is short, only a few decades. The most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others. Everyone has secrets they don't want to reveal; never force them to. No matter what, it's never forgivable for someone to use excuses to fall into depravity. The less loved you are, the more you should love yourself. Maintaining a relationship isn't about complete honesty, but about considering the other person's feelings and holding back. Sometimes, facing those around you, you suddenly find yourself speechless; sometimes, things you've always held onto change overnight; sometimes, you want to let loose, hoping for a     cathartic,

    hysterical breakdown; sometimes, someone suddenly tells you, "I think you've changed," and you're overwhelmed with mixed feelings; sometimes, you feel like you own the whole world, and then in an instant, you feel like you have nothing at all…     Some people can't be together, but their hearts are together; some are together on the surface, but their hearts can't be together; some never thought about being together, yet they naturally end up together; some finally get together after great hardship, only to find they're not suited for each other. Even if we don't end up together, at least love will remain. Love is together, so be together!