As the saying goes, "Speak only three-tenths of what you know to others." Even in the most congenial conversations with friends and neighbors, moderation is essential. There's a saying: "The longer you sit, the uglier you become." Too much nagging inevitably leads to gossip and idle chatter. Who's right and who's wrong? The speaker may be biased, and their judgment may not be accurate. If the listener inadvertently spreads this, it can cause trouble. Similarly, some "insiders" often believe everything they hear, readily sharing unverified information with acquaintances. Ultimately, people see through them, concluding they are boastful and arrogant, and thus keep their distance.
Don't assume that close friendships mean you can share everything. Such complete transparency can feel overwhelming. Leaving room for maneuver and discretion in speech and action makes things more intriguing.
Often, maintaining a distance, a touch of ambiguity, is the most beautiful approach. Maintaining a certain distance, preserving some privacy, and upholding respect—only then can social interactions truly become communication, trust, and comfort. As a child, reading Ouyang Xiu's poems, especially the line "The moon rises above the willow tips, a rendezvous after dusk," I never understood why a rendezvous would be after dusk. How could one see clearly when it's getting dark? Only later did I understand that after dusk, not only is there a gentle breeze, but the people and objects shrouded in the moonlight are also exceptionally beautiful. The figure of the beloved standing before you naturally appears graceful and charming.
"The mountain colors are hazy and the rain transforms them into wonders"—nature's hazy beauty creates a unique aesthetic, and so is life. Maintaining a certain distance in our interactions fosters harmony between people, and brings a calmer, more peaceful heart.
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