Yesterday, I was thoroughly annoyed by Jin Xing's show, "Chinese-Style Blind Date."
Since its release, the show has been met with a barrage of criticism. I've said before that in China, bringing your parents on a blind date is practically asking for trouble.
I don't want to criticize today; I think it's pointless. This is the reality of China. You can't just choose one man; you also have to choose his parents, and at the same
time, you're being chosen by his parents. Actually, I think this show is quite inspiring. I remember when the new Marriage Law was introduced, there were news reports about some girls posting it on their bedside to motivate themselves to study hard and improve. Now I think you can also watch this show often to motivate yourself to strive for self-improvement and growth.
Because they are just as frustrating, and you feel helpless about them.
Enough of the digression, let's get to the point.
Despite the criticism, two couples actually found love on this show.
The first couple: the female guest had an average appearance and figure, and was slightly overweight; her outward appearance wasn't particularly outstanding. But this girl was highly intelligent; she studied in China and then in Japan, earning multiple degrees. Moreover, she has high emotional intelligence and is incredibly funny.
So, although her appearance is ordinary, she captivated many people the moment she opened her mouth. This charm quickly attracted the fifth guest and his parents, because the male guest was so similar to this girl—ordinary appearance, exceptional intelligence, and incredibly funny.
Even the audience thought the two were a perfect match.
In the end, as expected, the two successfully paired up. Even watching
from behind the screen, I felt that these two were such a good match. They are both the kind of people who can outsmart others with their intelligence, are incredibly funny, and have exceptionally high emotional intelligence.
Such people are actually very difficult to find a suitable partner; no matter who they choose, you would feel that they are not a good match. Either their looks don't match, or their intelligence doesn't match. But when two similar people meet, they become a perfect match.
Both sets of parents were very satisfied and didn't feel that their children had been disadvantaged.
Another successful couple could make many people feel hopeless.
The male guest is a top student with a high level of education, having studied in the UK and started his own business after returning to China. He has abs, good looks, and is a veritable god.
That's not all; his parents are even more impressive. His father is a diplomat, and his mother is a doctor. Actually, his father is quite the heartthrob; his fluent English immediately wins over fans.
Apparently, many people want to marry him.
But I couldn't understand a word.
So, if you were an ordinary girl like me, you wouldn't even be considered good enough for his family. Even if you were, you'd be completely lost when they spoke, making communication impossible.
But the female guest was remarkable. She was also an academic high-achiever, with a high level of education, having studied in the UK and started her own business after returning to China. She was beautiful, had a great figure, and was perfect in every way.
Moreover, her parents were in finance; needless to say, they were also very successful and wealthy.
So, the situation on stage became particularly interesting.
Although many male guests and their parents expressed their liking for the girl, most people's attention was focused on the third male guest, especially the diplomat father, who immediately overshadowed the other parents when he spoke.
Families like theirs definitely have their own standards for their future daughter-in-law (don't be offended, having requirements is normal; every family has requirements when looking for a son-in-law), and their intelligence certainly surpasses that of many ordinary girls; it's estimated that very few can satisfy them.
However, they were extremely satisfied with this female guest and desperately wanted their son to be with her. So the parents worked tirelessly to help their son, even showing off their English skills; their son, in the dark room, said his dad was a divine helper.
Such a family is unattainable for many, but the fact that the whole family worked together to win over the female guest shows that she was worth it.
The mother of the second male guest, who was criticized for saying "Men at twenty are futures, at thirty are spot goods, and at forty are hot commodities," also tried to win over this girl. But she had no ability whatsoever; the girl didn't even look at her, and her voice grew weaker and weaker.
That was a satisfying slap in the face.
You see, if the female guest had the ability, she could easily slap the male guest and his entire family in the face.
Finally, naturally, the female guest and the third male guest successfully paired up.
Even I think they are a perfect match. Watching them hold hands, I felt a sense of despair, because I felt that someone as ordinary as me would never be able to find someone as outstanding as them.
Thankfully, I'm married and no longer worry about blind dates, otherwise I'd be tortured to death.
Look at these two couples above, aren't they inspiring?
We all want to find someone wealthy, cultured, intelligent, good-looking, with a great physique, and open-minded parents. Such people exist, quite a few, but the key question is, can you match them?
Don't blame the world for being materialistic; think about it: the other person has everything, is perfect in every way, and speaks fluent languages. You have nothing, are ordinary, and can't understand foreign languages. Even if they only care about feelings and nothing else, will you be on the same wavelength after living together?
They talk about stocks and entrepreneurship, while you only talk about plot points. They casually chat about various places, while you only know West Lake and Wudang Mountain.
Tell me, how can you live like that? How can you have a relationship like that?
It can only happen in romance dramas.
Reality repeatedly wakes us up and slaps us in the face.
I once said that people from different backgrounds shouldn't date. At least in dating, there's a chance; in the matchmaking market, you have absolutely no chance.
Because there are always people who aren't blind.
I have a cousin who's very beautiful, and naturally, she's extremely picky. Her goal is to marry a rich, handsome, well-mannered man who loves her.
She's been introduced to quite a few men, but each time she's furious. Those introduced are either ordinary workers, or orphans, or wealthy but older. It really breaks her heart; she always finds an excuse to leave after less than three sentences.
Later, someone introduced her to someone she was extremely satisfied with—young, successful, with excellent taste, and good looks and physique. This time, my cousin planned to sit down and talk for three hours, but after less than three sentences, he found an excuse to leave. Later, she
learned from the matchmaker that he said he couldn't communicate with her and didn't want to waste time.
My cousin was indignant, calling him materialistic, but thinking about it carefully, wasn't she materialistic herself?
We need to be on the same wavelength to make friends, let alone romantic partners.
Yes, we're all materialistic to some extent; regardless of our own circumstances, we all want to find someone who excels in every way. It's like winning the lottery—what are the odds?
There's a saying that you can tell what kind of person you are in the matchmaker's eyes just by looking at your blind date.
This statement is undeniably true. Although it might make many people uncomfortable, it's often true.
If you come from a good family, are good-looking, own a house, a car, and have a successful career, no matchmaker would dare introduce you to a bald, old man. Conversely, if you are of average appearance and build, have no career prospects, earn just enough to support yourself, and lack ambition, no matchmaker would dare introduce you to an elite man.
This is Chinese-style matchmaking, this is Chinese-style dating.
Look around us; those who successfully get together are generally of similar backgrounds. Those with vastly different backgrounds find it difficult to stay together, and even if they do, they will experience many twists and turns.
You will ultimately find someone similar to yourself.
So, conversely, if you want to find a certain type of person, become that type of person yourself.
You can't force someone to love or accept you, but you can improve yourself to be worthy of better love and attract more outstanding people.
When you are excellent enough, being with excellent people will be a natural thing.
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