A friend of mine deeply regrets her decision to switch from a large company to a small one. She says, "My former colleagues are highly valued by their current company. If I had stayed for a few more years, I'd definitely be a manager by now, living in a bigger house and driving a new car."
She blames her father for leaving, because when she asked for his opinion, he said, "If you don't want to do it anymore, come back." So she resents him for not persevering. Because of her regret and resentment, she hasn't focused on her current job, and coupled with blaming others, her life has become increasingly unhappy.
I've also regretted something for years. Right after graduating from university, I was eager to find a job, resulting in an accounting job unrelated to my major, which I've held for over ten years with mediocre results. Meanwhile, my university classmates are thriving in jobs related to their majors. I always think that if I had slowed down, I might have found a job in my field and perhaps achieved some success by now.
But later, I gradually came to understand. I was in a hurry to find a job because of financial difficulties and a lack of funds; I couldn't wait any longer. Although accounting wasn't my favorite job, I learned a lot, and the meticulous work requirements changed my previously careless personality. More importantly, I relied on this job to support my family. There were opportunities to change jobs, but because of my attachment to this job, I hesitated repeatedly and ultimately gave up other options. Looking back, what is there to regret?
Once a decision is made, there's no regret; there's the courage to bear the consequences, the determination to move forward, no frustration or blame—I think this is the choice of an adult. Anyone who enjoys chess knows that there's an important rule: once a move is made, it cannot be taken back. Isn't life the same?
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